How do you handle different eating styles?

Lynni · 02-09-2008, 03:54 PM

My child isn't the issue, it is my DH. I am ready to strangle him. I was all ready to make Kim's soup. He turns his nose up and says "Can't we have real food?". I ask him what he wants. He can't tell me, just food. WTF?

I rattled off several different things. Nothing satisfied him. By this point, I was so frustrated him that I don't feel like cooking now. I would be fine with a bowl of cereal. DH wants to go out to eat. Fine with me, where? We go round and round again. He can't tell me what he wants, just what he doesn't want.

If my son didn't have to eat, I'd say screw it and do nothing. Sometime in the middle of all of this, DH's friend calls. He is under the assumption we are going to dinner with him. Whatever. We are going now. Where, I have no idea because he STILL can't make up his mind and is complaining about it being crowded on a Saturday. I am vowing that starting tomorrow, I am not asking DH what he wants. He either eats what I make, or is on his own.

Do any of you have the same situation? What do you do?

KBtotheBB · 02-09-2008, 04:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lynni

I am not asking DH what he wants. He either eats what I make, or is on his own.

That is how we do it. Whenever I ask DH what he wants for dinner, I NEVER get a straight answer. I get "whatever you want" or "whatever you want to make". Fine. I make what I want and he has to eat it, because, well, he said he wanted whatever I was making! That is how he got his first taste of tofu and veggie burgers. He didn't like them, but he ate them. I refuse to make 2 separate meals ... DH eats what I make, or he makes something else himself.

whistlergirl · 02-09-2008, 04:02 PM

Whenever I ask DH what he wants he never gives me suggestions. I just end up doing the meal-planning without his input and that's fine with me. He hasn't ever complained about what I've made. He seems to enjoy everything. We have a set day when we plan to eat out each week. If I were you, I'd just make the soup and not bother telling your DH about it beforehand (unless he asked, of course). I made it a couple of weeks ago and DH thought it was great (no need for him to know that it was low fat or nutritious!).

Sparqi · 02-09-2008, 04:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kb9906

That is how we do it. Whenever I ask DH what he wants for dinner, I NEVER get a straight answer. I get "whatever you want" or "whatever you want to make". Fine. I make what I want and he has to eat it, because, well, he said he wanted whatever I was making! That is how he got his first taste of tofu and veggie burgers. He didn't like them, but he ate them. I refuse to make 2 separate meals ... DH eats what I make, or he makes something else himself.

Ditto at our house. I always get "whatever you want" or "whatever is easier'.
Dude...reservations is easier!

I make what I want and he eats it. Period. He doesn't like it, he can cook next time!

mommy23ms · 02-09-2008, 04:23 PM

I could have written your post Carrie. DH is the same way and it p's me off! I hate the round and round "what do you want?" "I don't know, what do you want?". UGH - hate it! No advice but I feel your pain.

Carol in Maryland · 02-09-2008, 04:43 PM

I don't recall ever asking either DH what he wanted for dinner LOL. I knew their general preferences, and their general dislikes, and I made what I felt like making, taking that into consideration. If I made something new, it was what it was. If he hated it, I didn't make it again. I have never been a short order cook.

KiwiMama · 02-09-2008, 06:15 PM

DH and I take turns cooking. We both pretty much like the same thing fortunately, so it' rarely an issue. If I make something he doesn't like - HE makes his own meal - or sandwich - or bowl of cereal. I refuse to make 2 meals because even though M is small, he'd be sure to pick up on that pretty soon and want me to be a short order cook for him too.

ThatSuzyGirl · 02-09-2008, 06:20 PM

I finally told Pedro that it would be a gift to me if he could just choose one of our meals when I ask.
Mostly, I don't ask and just make whatever I want that doesn't contain egg, wheat, peanuts, fish, or tomato.

Suzy

Mcheer · 02-09-2008, 09:02 PM

If I make it...They eat it! I am not a short order cook and the thought of me cooking everynight and not having them eat it would drive me to drink....

Oh wait I do drink AND they dont eat my food....grrrrrr

No advice sorry

Bensmom · 02-10-2008, 03:39 AM

I do all of the cooking and meal planning, and give DH a chance at input, but he rarely give suggestions. He never gives me a hard time though, even with all of the WW food (though honestly, I really think if you don't know, you don't know the idfference). However, once a week I make burgers, meatloaf, pot roast or some other beef dish that I would never eat (I do it on a night where I know I'll be interested in leftovers from the night before) since he really loves red meat. I think that helps keep him happy through the meals that he thinks are fine, but wouldn't necessarily be his choice.